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Are There Plenty More Fish In The Sea? The Myth Of ‘The One’

We all understand how it feels, to fall truly, madly, deeply for someone and have your heart broken into a million pieces. As you wade your way through the days that follow, one of the worst things to hear is that there are plenty more fish in the sea. After all, it doesn’t feel like it, and nor do you care right then and there.

That being said, as the dark cloud starts to separate, and you straighten your shoulders, ready to get back into the game, what are the chances of you falling in love all over again?

The reality of contemporary romance

A 2014 study commissioned to celebrate the released of The Rosie Project, the romance novel with a twist, shed some pretty insightful light on the modern-day world of dating.

The study revealed that on the journey to ‘the one’ men and women alike hurdle through a series of mishaps and heartbreaks. While almost 60 per cent of Britons reached the lonely lows of feeling as though they would never meet that special someone, on average both genders fall in love twice in their lifetime.

These meaningful relationships are peppered with other flings and fantasies, however. Women experience on average seven relationships and seven sexual partners, and men, eight relationships and ten hook-ups. This is of course in amongst myriad kisses and multiple disaster dates.

Is there really such thing as ‘the one’?

It goes without saying that the notion of ‘the one’ is imbedded into all media, from books to films, magazines to TV shows, and all that’s in between. Yet, the very notion of soul mates isn’t a contemporary one. It dates way back from Paris and Helen of Greek mythology, through to Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet, to today’s modern-day adaptations.

While all the concept of soul mates is often romanticised, it doesn’t mean to say that such attractions don’t occur in real life. Love at first sight isn’t unheard of. Couples do stay with their first love from school. Older adults do fall for their dearest of friends, becoming inseparable. Perhaps ‘the one’ is out there – the trick is just knowing where to look.

Finding the one in today’s day and age

Luckily for those who are unlucky in love, finding a soul mate has never been easier. While the rise of dating apps, such as the infamous Tinder, has encouraged young singles to play the field, there are other options out there.

Online dating sites are a fantastic way to search for like-minded singles, and push your dating boundaries outside of your usual social circles. Simply sign up, browse through available profiles, and chat with someone who strikes your eye. If sparks fly, arrange a meet offline. And do so safe in the knowledge that you don’t have to place all your eggs in one basket, so you can find someone local to fuck if that’s really your thing until you feel ready for a relationship.

Keep looking, keep chatting, keep dating, do what you need to do until you meet the one. With online platforms to aid your journey, the chances of finding Mr or Miss Right, have never been greater.